How many times have you been driving with kids in the back seat, listening to a song you have heard 100 times or more, only to be struck by the true meaning of the song? Maybe it’s a great song, with a strong message that you want your kids to hear. Or maybe it’s a song with a more mature message than you are comfortable with, and you have never really listened to it until now, and you are shocked to hear that your kids know all the words without fully understanding what they are singing about. There is an easy way to avoid this upsetting realization that the radio DJ’s do not always have your children’s best interests in mind.
Play your own music.
You do not have to subject yourself to juvenile nursery rhymes to ensure that your children are listening to appropriate music. Nursery rhymes are great, don’t get me wrong, but don’t think that there is nothing else out there for your child to listen to.
Anywhere you go nowadays, there is one thing you are almost guaranteed to see – small children glued to their parents’ (or in some cases their own), phones and tablets. You can’t sit on a bus or walk through a grocery store without seeing a young child (I’m talking 2 or 3 years old), staring down at a screen so that their parents can run errands without too much distraction.
Technology is a huge part of our lives and can be very effective at keeping kids occupied. But there needs to be a limit on how much of their worldview comes from a screen instead of actually experiencing the world around them. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) is calling parents to action, to decide what is best for their children in regards to how much screen time they are allowed per day.
Generally speaking, screen time is defined as any time that is spent in front of digital media for entertainment purposes, (online research and homework do not count). It used to be that the AAP had some relatively rigid guidelines surrounding screen time for young kids. The old guidelines recommended keeping children under the age of two away from all screen media. In October 2016, these guidelines were revised so that instead of focusing on counting down the minutes, the focus is now on how to use technology responsibly with children, no matter what their age.
I was out for dinner with friends awhile back and while enjoying delicious chicken chow mien, happened to notice a family of four – two adults and two children under the age of six – sitting at the table beside us. Nothing out of the ordinary there, except both adults were sitting across from each other using their cellphones and not really engaging each other – or their children. One of the kids, a young girl maybe two-years old, watched, as her mother snapped a blog-worthy photograph of her sushi. The little girl yelled to get her mother’s attention, which was met with a stern rebuke. Over the next hour as I glanced at this family, the parents animatedly engaged with their mobile phones. Meanwhile I couldn’t help but wonder what message their children were getting. It seems to me the message was cellphones are more important than spending time with their kids.
As an Early Childhood Educator, I often hear parents lamenting the challenge of getting their children to put down their media devices. Eventually, they say, it deteriorates into a screaming match as parents try to get their children to the dinner table. Parents everywhere are struggling with the balance between online and offline engagement. As I watched this family, it occurred to me the parent’s obsession with their own electronic devices might be part of the problem.
Children watch us, and as they watch, they learn. This is how they discover the world. In the late 1970’s Psychologist Albert Bandura developed The Social Learning Theory noting that children learn social cues and behaviours by observing the behaviours and interactions of those around them. What they are learning, in this case, is that it’s okay to use cellphones, tablets and computers during family meals, ignoring those around you. Overly harsh? Maybe, but I’ve seen this often enough to say it’s not a one of a kind event.
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